How To Combine Passion And Humor To Relationships

How To Combine Passion And Humor To Relationships is what we talk about with award-winning Speaker. Emcee. Audience Cultivation Strategist. Pablo Gonzalez IS THE MAN! He is proving community creation is the future of Biz Dev and he is amazing at it.

Pablo and I met through a mutual friend, Mike Ficara, Host of The Start Down Podcast ( always fun to give a shout out) at the 2019 Podcast Movement Conference in Orlando.

We quickly became fast friends and this past March co-hosted a successful retreat for young entrepreneurs together in the mountains of North Carolina.

If you want to combine passion, humor and a commitment to personal connections, then I just described Pablo.

Want to learn how to create deep and meaningful relationships in your life and business? This episode is for you!

How To Combine Passion And Humor To Relationships

Speaker 1 Jason Wasser (00:00:00):

This is the You Winning Life podcast, your number one source for mastering a positive existence. Each episode we’ll be interviewing exceptional people, giving you empowering insights and guiding you to extraordinary outcomes. Learn from specialists in the worlds of integrative and natural wellness, spirituality, psychology, and entrepreneurship. So you too can be winning life. Now here’s your host, licensed marriage and family therapist, certified neuro emotional technique practitioner and certified entrepreneur coach Jason Wasser.

Speaker 2 Pablo Gonzalez (00:00:36):

Hey everybody. So welcome back. I’m with one of my newest, but also moving his way. Not only up in the ranks in podcast world, but also in the ranks of our friendship. Associations is my buddy Pablo Gonzales, who is the host of the chief executive connector podcast. And also the CEO of connect with Pablo, which is in my best way of explaining it. Anything that you need to get your branding marketing and your social media and all these other things to get your face out to the world. Pablo is the guy you need to be talking to. So probably thanks so much for hanging out with us today. Thank you, Jason. I’m glad to be on the you winning live podcast. I was trying to practice some that for a little while. I’m pretty sure it’s right off the bat. As, as, as we get into the billing and one things that we can probably talk about.

Speaker 1 (00:01:36):

One of the things that I’ve learned to learn to love about you, that I’ve learned to appreciate about you, that I am loving about you is just this thing of everywhere you go, you just meet friends, you make new friends, you make new connections. And I know it goes back to our story that we were able, that we met through a mutual friend of ours. So I don’t know if you want to start there. Yeah, man, I’d be happy. That’d be sure that little Diddy cheer that little he man. So I don’t know how far back to go with it. Right. But I guess it all comes back to Jesse Itzler to a certain extent. And I took his BYO LR course. I joined his Facebook group at some point when I was doing his Mondays bananas call back then I was called bananas with Jesse.

Speaker 2 (00:02:24):

Yeah. Ready for the 10 X conference he puts in this guy, Mike Ficara then goes live. He’s like, Hey Mike, I’m going to be down in your neck of the woods. I might say, Hey, I’m going to be there. And it’s like, Hey, let’s meet up. So I’m like, Oh cool, man. So I want to meet up with my too. So I hit up Mike to say, Hey, let’s, let’s meet up at this tax conference also. And I meet him there. He then like a month later, invites me to a Instagram, like for like kind of group of which you’re a part of a couple months past. I don’t know how I feel about this group to be quite frankly, I’m not a crazy guy, but you’re in there. I put I up the flag. I’m like, who’s going to a podcast movement in Orlando.

Speaker 1 (00:03:02):

You say, you’re going, I do my usual thing, which is try to get everybody, you know, as many people as I can together the first night to just like, kind of get to know each other and you and I are talking, you show up, we start, you know, the niceties, whatever. We start making fun of each other, which is a crucial step in me, bonding with anybody. And then at one point as the night goes on, we gather like 16, 18 people. I just went on this app and started just inviting people like, Hey man, if you’re in town, I was seeing who’s ever participating on the app. I assume that that’s somebody that wants to connect. I started just kind of like, and people like, Hey Ron, I’m doing this thing where we’re all hanging out at the hotel lobby coming by. We want to meet people.

Speaker 2 (00:03:41):

And I dunno, man, probably like 10 to 12 people show up. And then there’s another group of people there. And at some point I look to my right and you got this dude standing on one leg leaning to his left and you’re like tapping him like right in the kidney. And I’m like, what the, what is Jason doing over there? And from there on out, I’ve just been fascinated by you, man. So yeah. So for everybody, who’s wondering what the heck I was doing with all that weird stuff is my neuro neuro emotional technique modality that we’ll definitely get into probably a little bit more later. But the fascinating thing was, is like, I almost didn’t show up to this thing. Right. Cause I had this, like I wasn’t staying there and I’m like, I don’t want to go over to the hotel. And you know, I don’t want to be, my joke was like, I don’t want to pay $20 for parking just to meet a bunch of people that I’m probably going to see the next day.

Speaker 2 (00:04:29):

And like, you know, I was, I was being a lab perspective and like, you know, I’m glad that everything worked out and like we met this whole awesome crew of people and you were one of them, right. Jeremy was one of those people that we ended up meeting that night as well. Roman was the guy who you’re punching in the kidney. Right, exactly. Right. So all these really incredible people that became part of this network of, of not just really good people, but also really cool people have podcasts as well, which is we we’re at this podcast movement conference. So I’m going to talk a little bit about family history because I know that one of the most powerful things for you that are a guiding factor in your life is your family. And I know that a lot of the work and the motivation that you have in your world is not just right.

Speaker 1 (00:05:14):

The belief about how important family is to you, but as a, as a motivating factor of like in order to, you know, continue this beautiful legacy that’s been started. So let’s get a little bit into that for a few minutes. And I know that, you know, on your podcast one of my favorite episodes is one of the interviews you had with your dad. But for people who have not yet listened to the chief executive connector podcast, can you just give a nutshell of like, you know, just that story of like, you know, dad’s background, family background and why all this ties into being so important for you? Yeah, for sure, man. I I’ve often said that if Ted Kaczynski had my parents, he would have been bill Gates, right? Like I feel like

Speaker 2 (00:05:58):

There was no problem that I encountered in my life that I didn’t create for myself well into my low thirties. So I was very, very blessed to come from a tight knit family, right after sound, the most American person in my family. Right? So it’s just like traditional Hispanic family with multi intergenerational ties and like 17 cousins that I’m really good friends with. And my father is a guy that at 14 years old immigrated from Cuba, right? Like this is a, a very common tale in South Florida. But our friend that is listening on the you winning life podcast may or may not, may not have heard this tale, but there was when the Cuban revolution took over and Castro took over Cuba. There was a lot of people that were put in jail indefinitely. There was a lot of people that were executed for not agreeing with what’s going on.

Speaker 3 (00:06:52):

And that led to a mass migration where a guy showed up at my grandfather’s house with a rifle on his back and said, Hey, listen, this house now belongs to the government. And my grandfather said, take the rifle out or shoot me. So that guy left, wasn’t happy. My grandmother packed up everything. They moved to Miami overnight. And my dad is a 14 year old shows up in Miami. Imagine being, you know, how awkward and terrible being 14, 15 is already shows up leaves this beautiful tropical paradise, which is Cuba, right? A mountainous Caribbean Island and shows up in Miami and they gotta figure it out from zero. Luckily my dad went to a bilingual school, spoke English was Xcel debts at school, got a scholarship. Once university of Florida graduated at that time, my grandparents had moved to Venezuela. So my dad moved to Venezuela with a job for IBM and is teaching English on the side.

Speaker 2 (00:07:42):

And at that point meets my mom and sees my mom’s family and sees everything that he’s ever wanted. Right. My mom is the oldest of six. My grandfather is a, came from a farm in the boonies of Venezuela, grabbed him and his oldest brother and said, I’m going to be a doctor. You’re going to be a lawyer. We’re moving to the Capitol and just built it up from the ground up, created this family that is very, very closely tied still to this day. I’m still on a WhatsApp group with all my aunts and uncles and my cousins. And and my dad fell in love with this, this idea of family. And at the same time, you know, his tenacity, his drive, whatever you want to call it got him from IBM, which was essentially got into computing in the late seventies. Right, right. When computers started tipping and he, he then parlayed that into a operational role with one of the richest families in the world, which is the Susan arrows family.

Speaker 1 (00:08:38):

They back then they owned all of the men as well and worked his way up with them to be their operator, to the point where, when they were acquiring companies, they would bring in my dad and it’d be like, this is the guy that is going to run it, whatever they started doing, leverage buyout in the late seventies, early eighties before that was even a thing for anybody that doesn’t know what leveraged buyout is. It’s buying a company at a certain valuation and financing the purchase of the company because you know that operationally, you’re going to be able to turn that company around and sell it at a multiple, just based on the appreciation. It’s kind of like buying a real estate cause you know, what’s going to appreciate kind of thing. So they started doing that. My dad started to being the guy that brought us to the U S when they started getting into personal computing.

Speaker 2 (00:09:17):

My dad was in Silicon Valley in the early eighties when he was talking to like the rival for the compact guy. And then back in Miami, then at some point they bought a business in Spain and they were going to give it to somebody in the family and then somebody in the family kind of mouth off. So they moved us to Spain and my dad ran this giant. It’s like a, Macy’s met. Walmart just felt like a top end department store. And they turned that from like a $4 million to like a hundred something million dollar business. Isn’t that called target? Well, it’s, it’s like a man it’s like targeted targets. So Louis Vuitton man. So it’s but they sold everything, right? Like if you go to Spain now, and of course that’s, that’s what it eventually evolved into back then. It was [inaudible]. So but then got treated as a, as an employee.

Speaker 3 (00:10:09):

And when they made this huge windfall really didn’t break my dad off anything. So he decided to be an entrepreneur in his own. And that’s what brought us back to Miami. At that point, he got into the world of business, he had another couple of exits and then on his, what he thought was going to be his last one. He got into the technology distribution industry in Latin America and built the biggest tech enabled channel partner to, to technology in the Latin America, which he likes sold a couple of times, then bought a downstream guy that went South. So in his late sixties, he had his first L and lost a lot of his retirement. At the same time. My brother was getting sick with pancreatic cancer. He passed away at the same time that he, like my dad had to declare bankruptcy and this business and as luck would have it, one of my cousins starts this little burger business while he’s in medical school in Venezuela.

Speaker 3 (00:11:04):

And it starts doing real well because of my dad. And they engineer a plan to, to grow this from like the 12 stores that he had to a hundred stores in a, not a hundred stores, but a, I think they grew up to like 35 stores or something like that. And it had 150 million Euro exit in like a year and a half. And you know, that’s, that’s my element. So I don’t know, man, that was a lot about my old man, but within it, all right, is, is a story of growing up with a very nurturing family. My mom is, you know, a family of means, right? Like I’ve always had opportunities. I’ve always had people that looked out for me. I’ve always felt like I didn’t, there was nothing that I couldn’t really accomplish cause I hadn’t seen anything else. So I, I believe that that’s just given me this very buoyant in life that I like to share with others.

Speaker 3 (00:11:57):

And I I’ve just been able to really focus on all that moving around has allowed me to really focus on how to be somebody that shows up from the outside and becomes an insider. And, and that, that piece, right? Like, but the, the idea that I moved around so much as a kid and I was the only kid in preschool that didn’t speak English and then we moved again and all these different things has really just made me obsessed with human connection and the importance of having a community around me and being part of a village that

Speaker 2 (00:12:29):

I can support you. And one of the things that stands out to me about the time that I’ve known you is that you really do bring in the heart side of an entrepreneur. And I think that’s one of the things that you’re holding is about connecting. It’s about making relationships. It’s about bringing out the best in people, but the one thing that I’ve really gone to know and hearing your family story, and then being connected to you over the last almost a year, we’re almost at our, or your friend aversary is is that you bring heart to the table. And I’m sure knowing that some of the projects that I know you’ve been working on and how you work with those clients that, that shows up everywhere, everywhere you go, because you’re trying to bring their hearts out so that they can then market and leverage themselves that makes them stand out from every other competition that may be out there.

Speaker 2 (00:13:16):

But I know like one of the things that you and I have talked about, like you just said a few minutes ago, it was like growing up, like having to you’re you’re reliving kind of in a way, what your dad went through having to relearn and learn a new language, be a new person in a new school, doing all these things. But I also know that your personality side is the, you’re going to be the one who’s going to stand out willingly, stand out in a crowd. Right. You’re going to be the one that’s going to go on the stage. You’re going to be like, so like where does that come from? Because a lot of times like entrepreneurs or business owners, or just people in general, like don’t have the bravado, they don’t have the bravery to do that. So where does that come from?

Speaker 2 (00:13:57):

You know what, man, I honestly, I think it’s just good fortune. Like I, I think somewhere, somewhere in the mix of being the youngest, right. So I was enabled to do that stuff being from a place where I just always felt supported. Right. Like I, I think I’m the oldest millennial, you know, like I, I, I grew up even though I didn’t really grow up in the U S until I was nine and I never really had participation trophies because of that. I still grew up in an environment that allowed me to,

Speaker 3 (00:14:33):

You know, expect the best of things. And because I was able to expect the best of things, I think it shaped me in, in a way that I just never really, I, and not only did I expect the best of things, I also, and I’m trying be as honest as possible here. Right. Like I also didn’t have a reason to think the bottom would fall out. So in this, in this like really safe environment, it really was just how can my relationships with people be as good as possible. Right. Like, I, I just never had any scarcity around me. And, and that was

Speaker 2 (00:15:16):

The way you’re describing it. Some people are like, Oh, well, that sounds like entitlement. And I want to just make sure that, like, this is really clear that like, that’s not necessarily

Speaker 3 (00:15:26):

Titlements right. You can just have crystal clear clarity.

Speaker 2 (00:15:29):

This is how I’m going to operate my life and how many interact with the world.

Speaker 3 (00:15:33):

Yeah, man. And, and I try to, I really try to put this out there and I’m glad that you’re asking me about it, because I think that there is this vilification of growing up with privilege and whatnot, and you know what, man, they’re there, there’s people that grow up in either side of that spectrum, right. With privilege or, or in, in, in poverty. And it can create great people or it can create bad people. Right. for me, it became this really driving force to prove to the world that I deserve what I was given, man. Like I’ve been given so much. And, and, and for me to think that I didn’t advance what was given to me and, and in a really difficult way, I thought at first I had to advance it financially. I thought I had to be as successful as my father.

Speaker 3 (00:16:24):

And at some point in my early thirties, I gave up on that. I’m just like, you know what, man, but that’s had a couple hundred million dollar exits do. Like, I don’t know if I got that in me, but I know that I can make every single room. I walk into a better place. I know that I can make every single person that I talk to feel about themselves, the way that I feel about them, which is I have this wonder of when I meet people. And, and, and I, and I always can find something that that person has achieved or that person has learned that I haven’t learned and that I haven’t achieved. And I, and, and I’m generally curious about it and I genuinely want to add that to my tool belt to right. So that I can then go out and propel that into other people. So for me, it wasn’t entitlement for me, it was indebtedness, right? Like I feel very indebted to the situation that I came up with and the resources that I was given to then be able to move society forward. Quite frankly, I’ve just never thought that I wasn’t supposed to achieve something great because I came from all this great stuff. So I’ve always just felt this like debt. And that’s been a really great motivator. And I think it’s also led to, you know, some of the stuff that I really struggled with.

Speaker 2 (00:17:34):

And that’s one of the things that I think that in our world of being a business professional and entrepreneur, whatever we want to call it is that we’re supposed to always have it figured out all the time to be always on our, a game,

Speaker 3 (00:17:46):

Always to have that on the far side of complexity, which is really the end goal for everything. What would you say has been like the biggest resources to you to get you through those really difficult, challenging spaces and places to write? We talked about, you briefly mentioned the loss of your brother from, from cancer, which was only a right. Less than a couple of years ago. Right. And knowing that you couldn’t, you decided to no longer live in your father’s footsteps from the financial perspective and have to compete at that level. So what, what truly helped you get there both internally and externally community man, you know, like having, having people around me that I could really go to when I was in serious doubt and having people around me that I could go to when I was thinking that I knew what was going on and people could tell me you’re going down the wrong path and, and that man, let you know that, that’s why I value it so much.

Speaker 3 (00:18:55):

I mean, for my, for my brother’s passing specifically was community, right? Like I don’t know how I would have gotten through my brother’s passing without the outpouring of support that I felt without the, you know, I, I say this all the time, man, but 1200 people showed up to his funeral man. Like that was just so uplifting. And, and, and I remember, you know, as a pallbearer, putting, putting his, putting his coffin in the car and turning around and just having this ocean of people behind me. And then I hugged the first person I, I saw him, which was my buddy, Alex younger, who, by the way, bought me this microphone. Cause my boy and, and, and, and like crying in his arms. And, but, but just feeling, feeling so supported. And then the following, like two, three weeks of just like all these people reaching out to me saying, man, your bro, you know, people that I didn’t really know that are now a big part of my life.

Speaker 3 (00:19:42):

And, and, and, and the moment where he was about to, you know, in his, in his final moments, when, when my sister felt like she was so sure that she was seeing him again, and she said it out loud, that she, you know, even though other people in that room didn’t really believe that she believed enough for all of us. I mean that she was speaking about me, you know, like the ability for people to, to, to, to be that stop gap for you to be that, that safety net has been so real for me, my whole life, that all I do is add people to that safety net and then try to create that for other people. And, you know, so that’s, that’s on the emotional side, right on the, on the entrepreneurial side has been the same thing. It’s been a little bit different that hasn’t so much been my family. Cause my family wants me to be safe. Right. Like my family’s set of incentives are, I want Pablo to not struggle. Anytime I see him, therefore I’m going to disincentivize his vulnerability and his ability to, you know, to, to, to, to take a step back instead of just taking the steps forward. It’s been friends like my buddy, just in Latour who, when

Speaker 2 (00:20:48):

I was leaving the construction industry and I was like, you know what, man, I’m just, I’m hoping that I can do something different because I feel like I’ve left all this meat on the bone. And I want to find something that really motivates me. And he’s like, Whoa, man, choo I, you tell me that you’re somebody has left a bunch of meat on the bone. I see a guy that was, was a consultant to a company was acquired, then acquired his company that was brought in just to be the sustainability guy that’s leaving. You know, as the guy that brought in drone technology into marketing became a business developer has done, you know, has landed on the top 20, under 40 in Miami, you know, has done all these things. So maybe cut yourself some Slack. I’m the same way as you talk about that on Mike, you really are honoring your dad’s legacy in your own way of creating and instilling and, and revolutionary, you know, what’s the word revolutionizing the industries in which you’re in, man.

Speaker 2 (00:21:49):

I, I, you know, I’ve never really thought about it that way, dude. I hope so, man. Like, I, I really do. I really do want to honor my dad’s legacy. To me, his legacy is one of integrity. Yeah. And that’s something I really wanna honor and I really wanna honor my mom’s legacy. Right. Like my mom is, my mom is the person that has really, this personality is my mom’s personal. Like my mom’s the person that like walks into the CVS and knows like the name of the janitor. And, and, and that type of stuff, like she’s the social aggregator that I, that I, that I, that I really learned this stuff from. So I hope so, man, I appreciate you saying that it’s a synthesis, right. As each developmental stage of our life. And you know, this from psychology one-on-one is that we go through developmental stages and each stage of our life is really unpackaging and working on a certain thing from sometimes from our childhood and you know, what are we healing and what are we aware of, right.

Speaker 2 (00:22:38):

That whole scale of self awareness, which you and I had conversations about every, every opportunity that I think each of us go through is an opportunity to just unpackage something new. If we have the realization that that might be an opportunity for us. Correct. Yeah, man. And that, and that really man, a great friend of mine told me this was my, my best friend. That’s over 50 uncle Mark my buddies, uncle Mark Hamilton. He, he at his brother’s wife’s funeral said something that it was in great, sad. It’s like in moments of great loss comes great clarity. And you know, I look at, I look at my brother’s passing as that like big moment that, that brought all this clarity to me like this aha moment of, Oh man, community is everything. Community is everything. And then I started, you know, the reticular activator got activated and I started seeing it everywhere.

Speaker 2 (00:23:40):

And I started seeing like that, you know, the, the, the religious business model has been a business model of bringing people community, and it’s been winning forever. And that all these other brands that create this stuff make it happen. And what I was doing in the nonprofit sector in Miami as a hobby was actually a business model that I could implement in some business and all this stuff just started kind of adding up. So yes, I agree, man. I agree. It is, it is really that perspective of I can learn something from anything and the harder it is to go through the bigger the lesson can be.

Speaker 2 (00:24:16):

Yeah. And then taking those lessons is now twofold. What you’re bringing into your podcast and into your, so to speak day job, and part of your podcast is so to speak part of your day job, right? Cause it’s an outshoot of your, of your brand and your brand recognition. So coming from that construction world and then being partnering up with these nonprofits, and I know that you’re a huge fan of building a community through getting involved with nonprofits. Right. So I want to first talk about that in that, that, that, that stage of your life, when you were living in Miami, before you moved up to Jacksonville, but also now that moving that and leveraging that in your professional world of connect with Pablo business. Yeah, man. So what happened for me was I graduated college in 2003 worlds and under construction, I got at this job as a manager in training for fortune 500 company that would assure me that I would be an executive really quickly in my career.

Speaker 2 (00:25:12):

And management moved me to California. I was running a $15 million branch with 150 employees. I led a couple initiatives, got really into green building. And in 2008, 2009, as the world was falling apart, I had the bright idea of starting a green building consulting company. And at the time I was going to start in California, but my dad called me up. He’s like, Hey man, you’re going to be one out of like 200 California is I know this stuff. We’ll come back to Miami and be the guy. So I decided to do that. And when I moved back to Miami, I had the great fortune that my best friend, Eric Gilbert sent me this email saying that my habitat for Miami habitat, humanity of greater Miami wanted to start a young professional group. So I’m like, alright, cool. This might tie into business development, right? It’s construction, I’m a green building.

Speaker 2 (00:26:01):

I show up to this living room. There’s like 25 people at the end of the aisle, about 15 people stuck around, we start this young professionals group for habitat and that, you know, it didn’t lead to business development right away. Right. Like I didn’t, I didn’t meet anybody there, but it exposed me to the world of nonprofits. Right. So a year later I was president of that group. I was on the board of habitat a year after that. I was like doing this leadership Miami program, come on a leadership, Miami you know, I get on the board of a couple of other charities. Then I get on route to get on the board of the economic development agency of Miami and, and all, all the, while I am networking and meeting all these different people that at the very right, like I didn’t

Speaker 3 (00:26:44):

Have to go back to, I still have my friends that I grew up with in Miami, but I didn’t have to go back to that. There was this whole world of people that, you know, South Florida, right? Like people’s number one complaint is how flaky people are, right? Like how like vacuous it is or materialistic. There was this whole world of people that at least cared about something more than themselves or else they wouldn’t be in this nonprofit world. And what we started realizing was working that worked across multiple young professional models was you recruit people based on, Hey man, it’s like 50 bucks for the year and you’re going to be volunteering for habitat, but we meet once a month and we plan either a happy hour or letting you know, like a networker, a fundraiser or some kind of volunteering event. And you’re going to meet all of these people that care about more than themselves, right?

Speaker 3 (00:27:32):

If you’re new to town or you just want to pivot, but also when we meet a member of the board of the charity is going to be there and you’re going to get to pick their brain about their, about their career and about what they did. Right. And this and that. And, you know, boards of board members of major charities are usually the most influential people in your city. Right. So we started getting access to these like really influential people. And as my profile moved up, it was more and more right. Like we’d have the superintendent of schools or the CEO of Ryder corporations, stuff like that. And I started realizing that this way of congregating people, right. Where you offer somebody access to information or knowledge or relationship that nobody that they didn’t have before in exchange for involvement. Right. So it’s like this value add piece.

Speaker 3 (00:28:22):

And then, and what would attract the right kind of person, right? Like it would attract the right kind of person. That’s like, ah, yes, I see the big picture. I’m willing to work on something. If it pays me a lot, if it pays off longterm, it’s adding value to my life. So that’s like value-driven business development became clear to me. The other thing that became clear to me is that is much easier to get in front of somebody influential. If you have an audience right. Reaching out to the superintendent of schools is way easier. When I told him 15 of Miami young professionals that are, that are in, is for the beacon council. You know, we just want to pick your brain. I was never going to get a coffee with that guy. But you know, coming at it from that angle much, much easier.

Speaker 3 (00:29:02):

And as I moved in the world of nonprofits, I got exposure to that. The reps on like networking events, as you start leading committees and stuff like that, you can get exposure to public speaking, right? As you get on the board of these charities, you get, you start getting exposed to intergenerational relationships, right? Like I was often the youngest person in the room and had to figure out how to connect with somebody 25 years. My senior, that is way ahead of me and my career. And how do you build that relationship? It’s the same way you build any relationship. It’s add some kind of value to it. Right. so that was a big aha thing for me until the day that, you know, at this point I was, I told you how this green building company got acquired, became director of sustainability a couple years in, I was like on total autopilot, I was working like 15, 16 hours a week on my day job while like doing the rest of the time, doing this networking nonprofit stuff.

Speaker 3 (00:29:55):

And at a certain moment, I’m like, man, this is great. But the moment a consultant comes into here, my salary is cut, right? Like I’m fine. My a hundred grand a year I’m making here has gone because I don’t know what’s going on here. So lucky for me, I had been on a bunch of panels and I had, had done a lot of public speaking thanks to the nonprofit involvement. And the CEO of my company got invited to speak on a panel for smart cities in front of the economic development agency of Miami. And he didn’t feel like going. So they sent me in a stead because I can speak, right. So I get there and unbeknownst to me, I share a stage with like the head of Latin America for Cisco systems and the head of the smart cities initiative for like the world economic forum or something to people I did not belong on a stage with sit up there.

Speaker 3 (00:30:42):

I’m totally cool. Calm answered my questions at the end of the events. This thing happens to me that I’ll never forget. I get off the stage. And there’s like a line of six people, deep waiting to talk to me. Four of them were vendors, you know, like three or four of them were vendors. That thought I was a decision maker in my company, which I wasn’t. But obviously like, Oh, these people think I’m more important than I am to them. Were developers are like, Hey, what’s it take to get a guy like you to come work for me. And another guy was like a young guy. That’s still a good friend of mine to this day will back them. That’s like, man, I’m into this like sustainability stuff. I’m trying to figure out I’m an insurance guy, but I’ve become great friends with this guy.

Speaker 3 (00:31:18):

Right. But the idea that when somebody sees you on a stage and especially if you’re like sharing a stage with other people, they automatically attribute a higher sense of value to what you’re saying was something that hit me immediately and the value of that stage. And at that moment I thought, Oh, okay, so this is something powerful. This is a value add. I can give to people, how can I apply this? And I reached out to this developer that was building this high density project in a low density, rich neighborhood in Miami, but he was building it on top of the Metro rail. So like while all the rich neighbors didn’t want it there, I knew that what he was doing was incentivizing public transportation, which made me really, really needs. So I reached out to him, I’m like, Hey man, I know that what you’re doing is transit oriented development.

Speaker 3 (00:32:02):

I think that more people need to know about this. Can I put you on stage with a politician on the board of one of my charities and the land use attorney that I started habitat with and let’s have a little event here and I’m going to invite my young professionals of Miami to learn about the need for transforming the guy’s like, Oh yeah, man, I’m in, this is way better than a city council hearing where I’m just hearing from people saying, get out of my backyard, especially Miami. Right? So it comes in small event, cost me nothing, right? Like it was, it was easy. And maybe like 15, 20 people show up just to have this thing really easy connect them. And the next week they’re, you know, they’re like, Hey man, are you bidding on this $65 million project? Or what’s the deal? So at that point, it got us to the table on a major project, change my paradigm within the company.

Speaker 3 (00:32:46):

And that’s when my idea of community creation through business business development, through community creation was born. I didn’t have the language for it then. But at that point I started really seeking out where I could apply this. And that’s, what’s led to what I’m doing today in a really roundabout fashion where I became then the VP of business development for a startup software company. And I thought that what I was going to be doing is hosting these little types of events around the country and the world for e-commerce sellers to do. But when the company went way South and we lost all our budget, I started doing it online. We started, I started a ma I didn’t start it, but I learned the concept of a mastermind, right? I didn’t know what that was, but the idea of, you know, bringing 12 people together to just like have a support group and give them some content.

Speaker 3 (00:33:37):

And I started really nurturing our 12 highest level clients of that software. Because at that point they represented a lot of our, our recurring revenue. And within a couple of months, we were all like best friends. A couple of months later, we take them all down to Panama and we have this like in person meeting where everybody bonds, my business partner, that’s fine. You know, I gave everybody a formula for like how to present their business. And we realized that everybody was really good at one thing. So my business partner came back, implemented that one thing into his eCommerce store, it blew up. So then we treated a course around, it sold out for 5,000 bucks, a pop may like close to a hundred grand off of that to pay for like software improvements, whatever had an event here, six months later when we invited eight of them to be on our stage and, you know, give them the stage and positioned them as experts and all the while we’re having these recorded calls of troubleshooting stuff with people where we’re getting all these recordings of like, Oh man, I’m having this problem.

Speaker 3 (00:34:33):

And then a couple of weeks later, Oh, thank you so much for that advice that you gave me. So that became a digital marketing strategy, right? So like you started using the content to like attract people, would that stuff would come into our Facebook group and then find out there’s a cool club at the top of the customer ecosystem. And Oh, I can go meet the person that I saw on the commercial in six months. It just became this very clear customer journey, which has led me to what I’m doing today, which the simplest way that I can put it is content marketing community creation agency, right? Like it’s driving these interactions where you can. So if you were listening closely, I will distill the formula. The formula is find a valuable piece of information or relationship that you can, that you can create with a group of people marry that, right. That, that was what we were doing for habitat. That’s what we’re doing for the new leaders council. And then if you’re also recording it you’re creating content around it that you can chop up and distribute in a way that attracts people to your, or to your initiative

Speaker 2 (00:35:38):

Or whatever you’re doing at scale, because you’re leading with all this kind of value and it can work as a recurring revenue tool or a content creation machine, or, you know, in order to network up, right? Like you can, you can use it to get in front of whoever you need to get in front of. It fills the pipeline of all your social media. So it ends up creating this like a receptacle of anybody that comes into your ecosystem that is kind of interested in, you can be very interested in you with a million touch points with no friction whatsoever. And that ends up driving them to be your customer. And then it also drives your existing customers into being super fans. Right? So the big component of that right, is the community aspect. And I think that’s one of the things that are missing when it comes to the business.

Speaker 2 (00:36:24):

A draw that a lot of entrepreneurs and businesses leave on the table is that they’re not creating a community around the product that they’re creating. I can say for like, in my example, that like chiropractors right, are a good example of like, they try to create a community around their business because they also will do wellness workshops and they might do speaking engagements at their offices. But in my role, in the therapy world, it’s really weird because we have this like extra confidentiality, right. Even though every medical professional has confidentiality, but it’s something that’s been like so low down on the paradigm that we had to start creating this online presence for ourselves over the last couple of years that we still get dogged for that therapists. Don’t do that therapist. Aren’t social media entrepreneurs. We don’t leverage social media. How dare we go out and look for clients, the clients have to come find us.

Speaker 2 (00:37:14):

Right? And so the trend has been finally shifting and changing where if we’re not leveraging, cause you know this, like it’s cheaper to recreate new, additional financial resources off a client you already have and to go out and find a new client in the marketplace. Correct? Correct. And a lot of times there’s still that old school mentality in certain business models of like, what do you mean? Like, but they already bought something from me. How can I go ask them to buy something again? If they already bought my product one time versus trying to go out and get that new client. So like, what are you seeing when it comes to like these old school branding, marketing relationship based models that are outdated, that you’ve tried to break through the glass, the glass wall. I’m seeing that the older the school, the higher, the return, like the arbitrage is so there.

Speaker 2 (00:38:06):

Right? Like I, I have recently gotten into the financial services industry and man, this thing’s a home run there. Right? Cause like our bank is a bank is a bank like nobody cares. But if you, as a bank can start saying, okay, listen, we’re a bank. You know that you can come with us for a loan. You can come for us for a new account, whatever we need. But if a bank takes the conscious effort of saying, Oh wait a minute, man. As the bank, I sit at the center of all of these different entrepreneurs and all these different businesses. And if I know

Speaker 3 (00:38:36):

That I’ve got one really good marketing agency that works with small and medium sized businesses and I can bring into small, medium sized businesses that are my customers and expose them to this marketing agency, you know, to give them advice on their marketing strategy, right? Like plan a once a month call for small media. This is a real life example of somebody, of somebody that I’m, that I’m starting to work with right now. Right? They’re their clients are small. It’s a small Miami local bank, small, medium sized businesses, commercial real estate. Right? So like developers operators and and investors and international clients. Right? So if every first week of the month, this bank brings in a expert in small, medium sized business operations, right? Like the tax guy, the CPA guy, Hey, this, this is what you want to know going into June right now with all this stuff or the marketer, Hey, listen this right.

Speaker 3 (00:39:33):

You aggregate those people into a zoom call, record the zoom call half Q and a everything that people learn, you distribute. The second week of the month, they have a, a real estate developer, a land use attorney the head of zoning for Miami talking about this is what’s happening, blah, blah, blah. People show up. It’s a crowd. You know, it’s, it’s not unlike any kind of business panel that the, that the chamber of commerce does once a month. But as a business, you can be doing that, right? So like you start creating these pillars of content that also create interaction between your customers. That also create a whole bunch of content that now reaches people that aren’t just your customers and it starts driving them together. So in this, in this, my biggest client is a, it’s called JWB. They’re a rental property, turnkey investment funds.

Speaker 3 (00:40:23):

So you give them 40 grand. They give you a cash flowing rental income property in Jacksonville that is cashflow positive from day one, or you can, or you can private land with them. And it’s all on land that they acquired within the last three years business buildings that they build, they’re totally vertically integrated and they manage everything we’re now in week, man, we’re we’re in the second quarter, right? So we’re like month four or five of what we call the, not your average investor show, right? Like that is our, that’s where we send all the clients we bring in bestselling authors to talk about investing or just the president of the company, talking about what the coronavirus is, having an effect on real estate prices. We now have five or six people that plan there. They plan their week around making that show. Like, you know how powerful that is, man? That’s that is five or six, just like fanatical ambassadors is just like, yeah, man, not only am I an, I was an investor with these guys seven years ago, I went through one round of investment cash out. I didn’t think about it again. Right. But if this show, if this show would, it would have been around, I would have been like, no, man, I’m keeping my money with these guys. I’m gonna keep investing in the long term relationship. And it’s so crazy. Cause what talking about, isn’t

Speaker 2 (00:41:34):

Like rocket science, right? It’s leveraging the community of people you already have around you. Correct. And it’s funny, right. You know that my family has the third generation furniture business. And I think they’re there. They’re really good at that. Cause my sister and I always born to brainstorm these types of ideas together. And they did this past year. They did two nights. So my sister got married. My both, my siblings both got married in the last year in change. And when my sister and her husband went away, they went to they went to Italy and they found this family owned winery. And apparently they found that they guy, one of the people from Northern winery comes over to America and does these events, these wine tasting events to get people to buy and whatever. And so they did two nights at the store for their top one night for their top customers and one night for all their vendors.

Speaker 2 (00:42:23):

And what’s called the the people will come in and help them with, you know I kept the brain. My brain is fighting on what they’re called, but the interior designers. Right. And it was just this like simple give back. And there was one of the nights where it was also some of the families that came as well. And they’re like, we’ve like, the vendors are like, no other company has treated us like this. And it really costs them like nothing at the end of the day, right. The food we cut, right. The cover. So let’s say it was, I don’t know, $2,000 for, for 40 people. We thought whatever it was. Right. It’s, it’s nothing. And the re the return on investment is just so massive. But bringing in all those people that then meet each other and to network with each other, even though they might be with competing companies, so to speak right in the furniture world or the interior design world. But that’s still leverage of like, Oh, I don’t have this project. That’s really a fit for me. Let me pass it on to you. Oh, where’d you guys meet? Oh, we met at Wasser’s furniture.

Speaker 2 (00:43:24):

Yeah. And they’re still both getting their furniture from us, right? Correct. Correct. So it’s a longterm, it’s a longterm value proposition. Right. And, and you’re describing a live event. I think that is awesome. And I think everybody should do that once a quarter, whatever. Right. Cause that costs a little bit of money. Right. But having a zoom call where you’re just like, Hey Matt, you know, like I’m going to bring all my, all my interior designers and I’m going to go reach out to the head of angle Volkers interior design so that they can pick his brain. And then you go out and redistribute, you know, like, so that’s a zoom call that costs you nothing. Right? Like people just show up, you get to establish a relationship with a leader in your industry. And then, you know, the next step is like, all right, cut up all the big pieces of wisdom and distributed on your social media channel people.

Speaker 2 (00:44:11):

They’re like, Oh man, you got to talk to the head of design of uncle. Bulger’s. If I’m a customer with these guys, I’m in, you know, like it’s easy. And it’s just of all it is, is just literally right. And one of the things that we talk about is mapping out the schedule in advance and plugging and playing in reverse engineering from there. It’s one of the things that we did when we put our retreat, it’s like, okay, what are the big things, right? What are the highest priorities that you want to accomplish in each aspect of your life? But I also think that we have to calendar out like these type of events, like a year in advance, right. Jesse talks about this, right. The Muskogee’s and right. The planning out the big, right. The big things and the little things that you want to accomplish, what are some of like right now, especially right.

Speaker 2 (00:44:53):

We’re in the middle of this pandemic where we’re hopefully, you know where we’re at, we’re at the end of the top half of the curve. And hopefully it’s going to start dropping down in the next week or so what are you seeing as some of the, the advantages and some of the challenges at this point of this experience, man, you know, I’ve, I’ve been saying this for awhile. I, there is some real, you know, stuffs, people are going through some, some serious hardship with coronavirus and, and what’s happening in the business world. I think most of it is a rapid acceleration of trends that were already coming, you know? So like outside of, outside of the hospitality industry, man, like I don’t, I don’t think like germaphobia what was coming down the pipe. Right. And, and, and the shutdown of restaurants, I feel terrible for them before, for most brick and mortar businesses.

Speaker 2 (00:45:44):

The idea that, I mean, crystal talks about this right. From our retreat, right? Like the idea that our life is so digital, right? Like the percentage of interactions we have with people are so digital, whether it’s a WhatsApp group or it’s Facebook or whatever it is yet in business, the majority of these establishments are not digital. Right? Like the majority of these establishments have not moved to a virtual communication style and understanding how to communicate at scale virtually and things of that sort. Right. So, you know, for me personally, the idea that all these people that used to swear there would never use social media to like make friends or communicate or do business are now being forced to use some of these tools because of COVID. That is a huge opportunity, right? Like understanding, I, you know, I, I believe like Gary V says, right, like we’re just in this like phase similar to when radio was the number one method of entertainment and the television came along and people were like, nah, TV is a fad.

Speaker 2 (00:46:52):

It’s just going to rot your brain or whatever. But the people that won longterm or the people that became famous on TV. Right? So, so we are now in that same stage of, we are, we’ve moved from a communications medium where we thought we had it all figured out. And now there’s these new ways to communicate. And communication is always, what’s going to make you win, right? The better that you get at breaking down, what’s going on in your head into a way that the person that you are trying to communicate with lands on them. And they feel understood by the message and making process it and feel that that adds value to their life. You’re going to win. Then right now, it hasn’t been very long since everybody in the world has had the opportunity to communicate via video with like text overlay and a little bit of music and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

Speaker 2 (00:47:42):

Like whatever Hollywood has been able to do forever, which by the way, is the greatest advertising machine for American culture and a large reason why we win. You know, now everybody has that at their disposal. So it behooves you to become adept in understanding how these communication methods work, because it is a way to create relationships, scale, unlike ever before, for the average person agreed, agreed beyond. And here’s the funny thing, right? Until three months ago, people were giving millennials and high school kids and college kids crap about their use of social media, except those are the people that within the span of two weeks are going on a new social media platform. Like let’s just use like talk for example, right? And within the span of like a couple of weeks getting 30, 40, 50, 60, a hundred thousand followers by making ridiculous asinine videos.

Speaker 2 (00:48:37):

But the attention that they’re grabbing for 30 seconds, 60 seconds makes them something that people are either going to continuously follow because they’re creating something that is of value at whatever level is being perceived. And the people out there who are giving them a crap, Oh, well this is stupid. Oh, this is ridiculous. Oh, this is okay, but why are you watching it then? Why are you right? Or are there other people who don’t even know about it? And they’re just coming. I heard about this thing, this tech talk thing, or I heard about whatever, and it’s another way to waste time. Okay. But that right. The attention money falls the attention for sure. Attention. That’s why they’re 18 year old kids are getting paid hundreds of thousands of dollars on you by YouTube because they’re creating content that is being followed. And they’re now making buttloads of money by doing something that is really a hobby for them versus the rest of us.

Speaker 2 (00:49:25):

We’re out there busting our butts, doing a job and not making that money. Yeah. Yeah. And, and, and these are, you know, I think in the example that you’re saying it’s just pure entertainment value, right? Like this is, these are kids that are just like, this is the equivalent of like, Oh, I want to be a comedian. Right. But if you, if you’re, if you’re a business, I mean, attention is currency, right? Like attention is absolute currency. So if you can figure out a way to hold the attention of more clients and make it easy for them to be, tell their friends, yo man, this is really cool. And, and, and hop in and create this like frictionless way to get more and more attention, your business is going to grow. So you just have to figure out what you have that is valuable to everybody else.

Speaker 2 (00:50:06):

And guess what? It’s not your product, right? Like everybody knows whatever your product is. It’s it’s, you need to entertain, educate or inspire in some way around the things that you are doing or the things that you believe, or the people that you have around you. And if you can, and if you can thread that needle, which, you know, at the end of the day, the strategy is, is part of it. But it’s not, it’s not a far leap, man. Like if you just take inventory of who your clientele is and what they care about, who do you know that knows a little bit about what these people care about and bring them together. You now are cooking with grease, man. And then the rest is just like figuring out how to like edit stuff and put it on social media, man, that they’re don’t even edit it and just put it up at so many times, I’m hearing an entrepreneur, a business owner who’s been in their business 15, 20 years, right?

Speaker 2 (00:50:53):

Let’s say they’re a sole proprietor. They own their company, whatever it is, it’s a small business mom and pop shop. And the first words that I’m going to hear out of their mouth after the technology argument is, well, my day really isn’t that interesting? Well, if you believe that what you’re doing, isn’t that interesting? How the hell are you going to sell your product to somebody else? Right. And I think that’s a lot of things like it’s like thinking about it. Like for me as a therapist, my day is pretty damn interesting. Now I can’t share my therapeutic clients. I can talk about stories of, without not with non identifying markers in those stories. But one of the things that I did and you know, this right from, from our, from the BYU community is I put out an ad in the community. They said, Hey, who wants to jump on a coaching call with me in exchange for being on my podcast.

Speaker 2 (00:51:39):

It’s not going to be a therapy session, but it’s about something that you want to accomplish in your life. That’s been just dogging you for awhile. And I will coach you on that call with your exchange permission for me to put it out on my podcast so people can see what it’s like to work with me. Right? Yeah. Or just, you know, I find that people get so stuck in what they’re doing, and they don’t realize how interesting their thought process behind what they’re doing can be to someone else, because it’s very hard to look outside of yourself. But my buddy that I was just talking about Justin Wright, who told me this stuff about no, you route you over to chief. He goes to conferences. And he, you know, he’s, he’s big in the world of commercial real estate and he’ll go to a conference and he has this like idealized map of just like, he shows up 48 hours before the conference, the day before the conference, he hosts a big party.

Speaker 2 (00:52:38):

Then he has all these like appointments set at like the different breakout sessions. He invites people to the breakout sessions like, yo man, meet me at this session. I know we want to see it. And that’s like a mini like coast and have a party right leg to me, you know, he’s just a commercial real estate guy. But you know, thinking of things that way I, as someone that’s always thinking, how do I, how do I aggregate value? I’m like, dude, this is brilliant. Right? Like, so for tell me that on a zoom call, we chopped it up and shared it on LinkedIn and is awesome. And that’s what you did the night before our podcast movement. Right. When we met, like, I don’t think I would have met the people that we are now legitimately friends with had you not taken that initiative. And it’s funny, like in my own circles, like I’ve been teaching for one of my one of these nonprofit Jewish organizations that I’m very involved with.

Speaker 2 (00:53:21):

Like I started taking the initiative of like creating a little bit of external community around doing stuff more so, cause they’re not in house or not meeting every day. Right. All the times that they can do in house events. And I’m like, well, why aren’t we doing this? And why aren’t we doing this? And why aren’t we doing this? So like I teach on Wednesday nights, there’s a back to back group learning at eight o’clock, someone teaches. And then at nine o’clock I teach and I decided like, I’m going to make it more than it’s not going to be a lecture. It’s going to be interactive. It’s gonna be engaged. So it’s not like you jump on a zoom call. And you know, those things of like the older people will be the ones with their videos on. And the younger people will be the ones with their videos off.

Speaker 2 (00:53:56):

Right? I’m like, if you’re going to be in this nine o’clock segment, videos are on, this is not me giving a lecture. This is me engaging. I want you to be involved. I want you to interrupt me. I want you to call me out. I want you to challenge me. And I take a certain theme of a spiritual topic of the week, a Bible Torah portion. And I make it very psychological, spiritual and leadership based. It is now known that my average group that comes on for this class and I now have my regulars two or three Wednesday nights ago, we started at nine. We did not get off zoom till two o’clock in the morning, Eastern standard time. And my class finished well, but we’re now creating a community of people who one person’s in Mexico city and one’s in Toronto and one’s in.

Speaker 2 (00:54:45):

And two of them are in New York and I’m like, Hey, New York people, you guys are both in Brooklyn right now. Have you guys met? Can you guys connect offline? Right. So I’m really taking this inspiration from you of how do I create a community when we can’t have a community in person right now? Totally. And I think it’s so profoundly powerful that these last night I did two things I did. I did another course on relationships for young professionals. And then I led a speed dating thing for that other organization. And the first thing I want to know is like, everybody on zoom, if you’re like everybody had their names or whatever, but I’m like, okay, why don’t you put your first name, your last name and the city you presently live in.

Speaker 2 (00:55:26):

So I’m like, Oh, you guys are in Canada. Do you guys know each other offline? Oh, you guys are both in whatever. Right? So I’m trying to find simple ways on a zoom call that it’s blatantly in your face, where people can have a little bit more of an understanding or a connection with each other. And it’s simple. It’s just me asking and making a request and I’m taking 15 seconds to like, Oh, I gotta change my zoom name guys. Here’s how you do it. If you see on your, on your participants thing, hold on, foot your cursor over it. And you can see change my name rename. Can you click that and put your full name in, and then in parentheses, put the city where you live 15 seconds and then we’ll get started by the way, super valuable. Right? Because now you’ve also taught him a trick, right?

Speaker 2 (00:56:07):

Like I love, I love walking around conferences and teaching people the whole like Facebook messenger scan or thing, or the LinkedIn scanner thinks, Oh cool. Oh, who are, you know, so that’s great. And another thing that you’re highlighting is the idea that I’m not saying that all of our relationships are moving to online. I’m just saying that online is part of our world. So your ability to create relationships and nurture relationships to an either or right. Like whether it’s you meet someone online, like for example, I, I guess technically I met you online, right? Like technically we were on, like, I swipe left on me. I mean, you know, but yeah, man, you know, like for me, what works a lot is the fact that I meet a lot of people period. Right. And then I follow them on, you know, I, when I meet him, I connect with them.

Speaker 2 (00:56:53):

I connect with them online, whatever. And then they’re seeing stuff about me because I’m putting out these little videos and pictures and whatever, I’m just, you’re you’re present in their life. So then the average person that you see once, and you don’t see them again for another three, four months during those three, four months, they are still kind of like it’s touchpoints right. In business, it’s called touch points. And it’s relationship, you know, it doesn’t have to be sales, right? Like it’s just relationships or touch points in the therapeutic world. We’ll call those micro connections. Yeah. Micro connections, man. So as long as they’re still keeping up with you, the next time you see them and it’s not like, Oh yeah, we spoke three months ago. What were we talking about? But again, it’s just like, Oh dude, I saw that you got a new car.

Speaker 2 (00:57:32):

Like whatever, man, you know? So it’s just a way to nurture relationships and just, it just adds to the fabric of it, man. It’s not unusual. But one of the facts I taught the group last night when we were talking to theme on the relationships class was what are some of the hindrances or detractors of a healthy, successful relationship? And I gave him the data research from dr. John Gottman. And I said, how many positive interactions versus every one negative interaction do you think you need to have in order for that negative interaction to be wiped out? And they’re like, I don’t know, three to one, four to one, five to one. And I’m like, Nope, 25 to one. Yeah. Not surprising. Right. And 25 positive interactions to one negative interaction. So I think like, just for people to be mindful of that, like, are you doing 25 touch points for every time that you think that you shouldn’t be?

Speaker 2 (00:58:22):

And, and I really want to like, you know, just instill that for whatever the person is, whether it’s personal relationships and friendships or business, whatever it is, like, that’s just something, you know, I want to leave as a takeaway. And before we wrap up, I know we only have another handful of minutes before we got to bounce. We did this really awesome retreat together. And I know in the next three, four minutes, we’re not gonna have enough time to really go into it. But I just want to leave that as a teaser for when we hang out again and do this again in the near future. But we put together it’s really awesome how I show up retreat. Yeah. Yeah. That was awesome. And that was an example, a living and breathing example of the people that we’ve connected with in real life, but you mostly have connected with in real life that we brought together and me as your partner in this process to have this really insane, amazing weekend.

Speaker 2 (00:59:04):

Yeah. Yeah, man. And that was, you know, a couple of people from, from this conference, from that conference, keep up, boom online, and then it’s not like, all right, man, I’m going to host, I’m going to host six people at, at this mountain house and you know, how, how do we do it? And thank God you were there because you really helped you were that you were that safety net for me. And that one, right? Like we go back to the beginning of what we were talking about when I was lost in imposter syndrome and, and, and thinking that I had bitten off too much, as I always feel like I do, you were there to just catch me and be like, no, no, no, no. I just re steer, steer my nervous energy in one direction. And we ended up pulling together. What I think is a really wonderful experience for anybody that is either trying to like launch a new idea or thinks that they are not as far along as they should be based on what they’re doing right now.

Speaker 2 (00:59:57):

Or feels like they’re being defined by their past more than their future. Right. Which I think is a very common entrepreneurial thing. Right? Like who I was last year, I think it’s the human thing, right? Like who you are last year is, or is not who you are at the end of the year. Right. If you are, if you’re doing it right. Like if you’re learning and you’re growing and whatever yet, you know, you often find that like, if you move somewhere, when I moved to Jacksonville, I was all I showed up here as like this expert networker that had done all this stuff in Miami, you get my friends that knew me in Miami when I got to Miami, some of them still thought I was a green building expert. Like, so like how you show up matters. Right. And, and, and then like, when you, when you, when you first show up, that’s kinda like the biggest impression, but teaching people how to see you in a new way, based on the skills and and the knowledge and the practice of things that you’ve acquired in the last year is a big deal.

Speaker 2 (01:00:53):

And I thought, man, I thought that when we put together, it just came out splendidly. Well, in order to be able to navigate that, I couldn’t have been a more beautiful, wonderful weekend. And that was like the last weekend that like, right, right after that, like we came home, we started isolating, right. It was just like, it was just the utter chaos. So like to have this weekend in the mountains, up in North Carolina, in this beautiful environment and with really wonderful people was really powerful way to really was an incubator of the next steps for a lot of people. And I know that we challenged them to, to each bring a Ted talk that they would want to present. And a lot of beautiful, powerful shifts happen for a lot of people that weekend. And I definitely want to spend more time on maybe the next time we get together about how to create, how to have people craft a weekend of curated weekend, like we did and inspire other entrepreneurs to do that. And I think that’s something really profound that we can, we can offer for people. So I know our time is, is at that point, but I really, number one, thank you for, thank you for being a friend. And I’m glad that we finally got around to this. I know it’s been a long time coming and the guys, listen, I’m very picky with my suggestions, but go on any platform of choice and chief executive connector is Pablo is podcasts. And you can connect with it. You should add

Speaker 4 (01:02:13):

Pablo.Com, right? That’s how your email address you showed@connectwithpablo.com hit me up. That’s it. I’m a man to be continued.

Speaker 2 (01:02:20):

I was just going to say so on my website, can I go, pablo.com is a quick five minute video of how you can walk into any room and just talk, right? Like how, how you can, if you’re walking into a networking event, you’re walking in a conference it’s like the, you know, five minute, like if you’re walking into somewhere or you’re feeling like you, you might be a fish out of water, just listen to that. There’s also a downloadable kind of cheat sheet to take with you. So I highly recommend that I get a lot of good feedback from that. And that to me is like the easiest, like quick win value I can give to anybody because I know how to walk into a room and be the coolest person. And I can be a complete Testament to seeing that, knowing that and witnessing that. So began public. Thanks again for spending time with us today. I love you, bro. You get you right, man. Talk to you soon.

Speaker 1 (01:03:01):

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