What if you used this month to clean up one pattern that has been quietly costing you years?
Because for a lot of women in their 20’s to 40’s, it’s not “dating” that’s the problem.
It’s the pattern.
The one where every relationship starts with:
“This one feels different.”
And ends with you feeling:
- anxious
- confused
- emotionally overworked
- and somehow responsible for fixing what you didn’t break
At some point, you stop calling it “chemistry” and start seeing it for what it is:
a familiar emotional loop.
Here’s the pattern (if this is you, you’ll recognize it instantly):
- He comes on strong
- You feel chosen
- You move fast because it feels like “connection”
- Then the effort drops
- Mixed signals start
- You start overthinking
- You try harder
- You lose yourself
- And you call it “love” when it’s actually anxiety + attachment
That’s not romance.
That’s your nervous system locking onto something familiar.
Most people think the solution is: “Pick better men.”
But the deeper issue is usually this:
You’re choosing based on emotion, not data.
And when you’re in that state, your standards collapse.
Common drivers I see:
- Codependency patterns (over-giving, over-functioning, earning love)
- Family-of-origin repetition (choosing what feels familiar even when it’s harmful)
- Moving too fast (merging before trust has been earned)
- Confusing intensity for compatibility
- Avoiding the discomfort of walking away early
Here’s the hard truth:
Insight alone doesn’t break the loop. Behavior does.
That’s why I’m running a virtual, high-accountability group coaching program for women in their 20’s to 40’s:
Stop Dating the Same Man in a Different Body
This is not a support group.
It’s a pattern-breaking lab built around:
- clear standards
- pacing and vetting
- boundaries without guilt
- and accountability so you actually follow through
Program includes:
- 8 group sessions (virtual)
- 2 individual 1:1 Zoom sessions with me
- Total investment: $1,330
This is for you if:
- you keep dating emotionally unavailable or inconsistent men
- you move fast, then feel stuck
- you ignore red flags because you want it to work
- you over-give, over-explain, and over-function
- you stay longer than you should
- and you’re ready to stop repeating the same outcome
This is not for you if:
- you want to “process” without changing behavior
- you’re not willing to be accountable between sessions
- you’re in an active unsafe situation and need higher support first
Jason Wasser, LMFT is a licensed therapist. This is a group coaching program (not psychotherapy).
That said, confidentiality is treated as non-negotiable: what’s shared in the group stays in the group.
f this hit a nerve, good. That usually means it’s real.
Apply here (Google Form):
Yes, I am ready to change my dating and relationship patterns!
Once you submit, you’ll get next steps for enrollment and scheduling.
— Jason Wasser, LMFT